Our marriage has never been close. We both cared about each other but constantly argued. We have been to numerous counselors only to become more frustrated. Everyone thought we were a perfect couple and even made comments about “how we seemed to have it all together”…More like perfect hypocrites…HCM was recommended so we came with no confidence anything would be different. We were wrong. You helped us identify causes instead of pointing out all of our wrongs…even though you probably didn’t see it you gave us hope to keep trying…thank you for your gentle manner and patience. You believed in us when we didn’t even believe in ourselves…may God bless your faithfulness.
-A Married Couple
“As a child, I had the painful experience of growing up in a home devoid of love and full of abuse, leading to an inability to trust others, a legacy of pain and a longing to find love. Desperately craving affection and affirmation, I struggled to fit in, finding myself with many false friendships that made me feel like I belonged. I stumbled into the trap of moral failure. God protected me from homosexual experiences, drugs and alcoholism. I nearly smothered many friendships during this time by clinging too closely to people. Frequently I felt rejected, broken and unloved. Through prayer I was able to have the burdens of sin carried away by The Lord Jesus Christ, who revealed visions to me of a heart filled with His love and acceptance…I find my acceptance in Jesus Christ alone, in whom I depend on.
-A Single Man
We just wanted to let you know what a difference this has made in our life…we both agreed learning to connect with each other was like having a taste of heaven…we thank you and thank Jesus for showing up…”
-A Married Couple
We are a changed couple.. God is so good. Being emotionally connected has changed our relationship dramatically. We are staying pure, & talking to each other deeply like never before, we care for each other’s hearts & feelings, & the love we have for each other is unexplainable!!! We are so blessed! We are more than excited for our wedding day and can’t wait for it to be here. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts for what you helped us through. This does find our hearts open and connected with each other in a much greater way. It brings so much more joy and happiness to our relationship and we are glad for that! Thank you for all your support and encouragement. It has been wonderful for us.
-A Premarital Couple
“I was unaware how emotionally draining I was and how it caused the people around me, especially my family to pull away. I could never figure out why I was always depressed and felt so alone…God used you in a miraculous way to help me through the abandonment I experienced when I was given up for adoption as a little girl and the expectation of everyone to meet my need to be loved…I still smile when I think of how Jesus was always there with me…and how that His love is enough to meet my emotional need…it all seems clear now and my husband is so amazing…thank you so much for helping us”
-A Married Couple
After praying through many spiritual issues “I feel so free and clean” I have never felt so open to consider others….I was so focused on my own pain…I had several encounters with people while here that obviously was God…It would have been difficult for me before to consider reaching out to any of these people…
-A Single Young Man
After my daddy passed away when I was 8 I felt very alone and confused. I hardly had any friends at the time. After a few years I became rebellious towards my mom and for that reason had to move out of the house for 6 months. That really left me to feel rejected. Then when my mom remarried 8 years later I thought life could finally be normal again-but to my disappointment things were about as opposite as to what I’d expected. After my brother was born and diagnosed with a spinal muscular atrophy at 4 weeks, I really started doubting that God really cared for me. My brother wasn’t given more then 2 years to live and with things getting worse so fast I knew he probably wouldn’t even make it to his first birthday. During all this I was planning to visit HCM for a week if sessions and I didn’t believe God even cared enough. I actually expected that he might even pass away exactly while I was gone. During our sessions the counselor led me in a prayer and God showed me a picture of him giving me the love I’d never been able to experience from my earthly daddy. I was also able to forgive God for the feelings of bitterness I’d obtained toward him, as well as others. And I learned to trust Him again. God gave me a new heart without anger, hatred, or bitterness. My prayer through this is that I may use this to glorify God and help grow His kingdom.
-A Single Female
I had wonderful parents growing up but due to the attention given to other siblings I felt somewhat overlooked. I did not get the deep emotional connection that every child longs for and especially felt my dad neglected my need for affirmation and acceptance. I think this created in me a need to be affirmed and hear that from important people in my life. This created problems in our marriage due to the deep abuse wounds of my wife’s past which caused us to hurt each other and build walls closing each other off. I would react in ungodly, selfish and lustful ways which brought further pain to my wife’s heart causing her to reject me even more sending us in a tailspin in our relationship. I was able with the Lord’s help to begin to put things in order in my life that has helped me to break the hold that lust and pornography had on me and with God’s help have been able to stay walking in freedom. These changes and breaking these habits did not however improve my relationship with my wife. The trust had been broken to many times and her heart attitude was like a stone wall toward me. The week of counseling was an answer to prayer because my wife’s attitude and feelings toward me have changed DRAMATICALLY!! The sessions throughout the week have opened both of our hearts and minds to each other’s needs and what it takes to connect on an emotional level. We trust that God will continue to lead us forward in our future to many years of a peaceful and fulfilling marriage.
-A Husband
“Thank you for your gentle approach and your kindness. All of my childhood memories are filled with the sound of angry parents yelling and screaming. My husband and I were bitter and angry so your soft spoken words meant so much…it helped us to feel you really cared. We have been home for three weeks and not once have we raised our voices toward each other. ”
-A Married Couple
I wanted to share with you . I finally drew the picture yesterday you asked me to draw of how I thought Jesus would care for a heart..
-A Single Female
I really appreciated our time together. It was a blessing! I’ll admit that the prayer was a little out of the box for me, but I was very blessed by it! It was amazing to see how God revealed things to me during that time…” I also am amazed how that my husband has been there for me…I’m realizing how wonderful he really is…Praising God for His goodness!
-A Married Couple
“I grew up as a happy care free little girl who always smile and never met a stranger. When I was 6 years old I was with my mother at the park when two little boys ran up and one of them said “ewwww you are the ugliest little girl I have ever seen.” From that day forward I withdrew into my own little world and became absorbed in books. A few years later my dad left my mother for another woman which was also devastating. I felt ugly, abandoned, lonely, unwanted and undesirable. That led me to do whatever it would take to get the attention of boys when I became a teenager. I craved attention and wanted to feel loved. I became pregnant and married a man but it only lasted a few years. My life was in shambles and I struggled feeling acceptable with God because of my past. Jesus cleaned up a little girl’s heart that was stained black and made it look brand new. He gave me this verse: ”He has made everything beautiful in his time…Eccl. 3:11”
-A Single Female
“Our marriage was a wreck. Years of arguing left us drained and unable to appreciate each other. Everything mostly seemed normal to everyone around us, but in reality we were separated. You helped us understand how our hearts had been damaged by our past and showed us how we were stepping on each other’s pain…Thank you for patiently walking with us to find healing in our marriage.”
-A Married Couple
“I was depressed and completely locked up when coming to your office. My husband was at his wits end to know what to do for me. We were fearful and skeptical of your ministry, which reveals just how hard it has been for us to trust anyone. Things were bad and we knew something was needed so with much apprehension we scheduled an appointment. I admit it was nothing like I thought it would be. There were hurts in our hearts that we knew were there but always thought it was just the way it was and nothing could ever be done to change that. I was wrong! Jesus can change anything! I was surprised that at the end of the week I couldn’t find my depression, and we both were connecting in ways we never had before. I admit it still seems a bit unreal but I am leaving with hope. We both have found new meaning in “perfect love casts out fear…”
-A Wife
“All through my life I have felt like I never really connected with anyone. I felt like I was a big failure and that all the problems in my parents lives were because of me. Sometimes I felt like it would have been better if I hadn’t been born. I was confused and depressed, and always would forget things causing my parents to be mad and to just make my heart sink deeper into solitude and loneliness…I was skeptical when I first heard about going to counseling that anything could help. I figured the counsellor would be just like my parents and say either shape up or get kicked out of the house. I was terrified when I got to the HCM office. It became clear he really did understand and care about me and I began to think he might have something to help me. He explained some things about my heart from a graph and that was when I realized he did understand what I was going through and really cared for me. Over the next few days we prayed to the Lord asking Him to make my heart clean and to wash away all of the bitterness and anger I had stored away for many years. Jesus gave me a safe place in my heart that I can run to and ask God to protect and comfort me. Since confessing my sins to the Lord I have a renewed spirit and am trying to get along with others. There is still a lot to work on but now the feelings of rejection and misunderstanding roll right past me. It was a good experience for me.”
-A Single Male
“I never got the chance to thank you for what your program did for me. You made me resurrect things I would have rather left buried but in the long run I learned a lot about why I do things the way I do and why I react to stuff…Thank you once again for what you did for me, sometimes it doesn’t seem like you make a difference, but to me, you really did and with Gods help you will make many more differences and many more smiley faces.…
Here is a poem that really helped me You are a person of courage and strength and nothing can take that away. No circumstance that comes into your life can alter who you really are. You are a person of kindness and warmth with uncounted gifts yet to give. No matter how stormy the world is around you, your spirit still shines through Whatever life may bring, please believe in these two things — You’re stronger than you may imagine, and you are never alone.
-A Wife
“As a little boy I was sexually abused by an older brother. I also suffered emotional abuse from my dad. I was always the one blamed when things went wrong. It didn’t matter if I did anything wrong or not I looked guilty so I received the punishment. As an adult I have struggled with lust and pornography causing me to become quiet, withdrawn and passive and hiding my feelings of pain and rejection. As a result my marriage suffered greatly as well as other relationships with my children and my Lord. My wife reacted to my detachment and pulled her heart away. My wife and I lived as complete strangers and neither of us knew how to reach out to the other. Numerous times we decided to call it quits, but somehow God always changed our minds and we would hang on a little bit longer. We only communicated when absolutely necessary and most of those instances would result in a blow up. In short we had become enemies. After the fourth day of counseling, and I can only say what an amazing and awesome God we serve! God has truly worked a miracle in our lives this week as He has taken away the pain, the guilt, and replaced it with a peace that passes all understanding. And He didn’t stop there! What’s so amazing is that he helped my wife and I forgive each other and start fresh again, helping us begin to care about each other in a new way, and giving us a love for each other. Thank you Jesus!”
-A Husband
“The time we spent with you was very helpful. I never knew what love felt like. I didn’t know what I had missed or what I wasn’t giving… ” Now if we can only keep what we have gained…Thank You
-A Married Couple
